Big Dreams Come True: Renee Vos Der Wael Followed Her Intuition

Welcome to the ‘Big Dreams Come True’ interview series where I interview fabulous people (just like you!) about having their Big Dream come true. This month’s guest is Renee Vos Der Wael of reneevosdewael.com

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ABOUT Renee:

renee-9680Renee is an open-hearted and full-energy personality – she is a psychic life coach, educator, group facilitator, walker of life, traveler, wife, mother, and student. She works with people like you, Wild-Hearted people who are looking for those puzzle-pieces to complete their heart’s desires. Renee is here to support and guide in finding all of these pieces, making your picture perfect. Being a globetrotter for over 16 years gave her an open-minded & flexible attitude towards life. As an intuitive, she sees the possibilities in people before they have noticed it themselves. She loves the idea that we can reinvent ourselves whenever we need or want to.

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Transcript of Renee’s interview

What Big Dreams have you had come true? Tell us all about them.

I think my biggest dream started when I was a young mom. Your children become mirrors for you, so you start figuring out personal stuff that comes up. I started getting the feeling or the push that I needed to start to understand myself a lot better because I was seeing things differently. I could see energy around my kids, and sometimes other people. I had this when I was a young girl as well, but with the young kids around me maybe it became stronger because I was sleep deprived!

Everything, all my senses started to work really strongly and I wanted to make sense out of it all and understand it better. So, while sitting in the middle of the night I was asking: where is this coming from and how can I understand this better and what am I supposed to do with it? You start taking small steps because in the beginning you are not quite sure what your big dream is. So I would be standing in the middle of a book store and saying “okay, what book do I need to read at the moment?” and funny enough a book would fall out about angels.

So I started reading about angels and then the next book came and then I stumbled into a course all about how angels or angel energy works and how reiki energy works. At one point I said to my husband “I would really like to do something for me.” It wasn’t about making money, I just wanted to be in a room where I was me. That is when I started learning massage.

And now looking back at it all, I just slowly went into all these healing modalities and started learning about all these things, then moved onto coaching degrees and talking to more and more people. So for me my big dream became working with people and tuning into their energy. Even through Skype calls, even if I do not see them personally, I can visualize them in front of me and hear their words, and feel or sense what they are saying sometimes without the words.

That is what I wanted to learn and understand. I was already doing it, but it was not making sense to me and I needed to be organized so I could explain to clients what I did and how I could help them. I was very lucky, because I move around the world a lot, to meet different people and different cultures and I was able to do courses with some big names. One of my teachers is Sonya Choquette of six sensory living – she is just such an amazing person and to work with her and to have her as one of my teachers and supporters out there is amazing.

I was also able to travel and go to a special college in London where they work with psychics and mediums; Arthur Findlay College. I was able to work there with people who are able to see the same way I see, so in words, or in energies, or in visualizations. My dreams became bigger not only because I was able to understand a lot more, but also because I made connections with people who were like me, because sometimes you feel lonely in this big dream.

I was able to connect with people who had big dreams in a similar area to me and keep developing all that. So I think for some of us this big dream becomes big dreams because it keeps developing. It is never really finished is it? You are always adding to it, this big Lego country you are building.

I normally ask what the catalyst was for this dream and what made you want this, but it sounds like, for you, it was not exactly a catalyst as much as a pull towards something. Could you tell us a little bit more about what that was and how that felt? And was it conscious or was it just a feeling that you had to go for something?

I think it is more of a feeling or a drive to understand an unknown thing that I really wanted to follow. I think if I have to point towards a catalyst it would be my kids because that is where the questions came from, like “why are they doing this and where is this coming from and why do I see that green light always around her? What is that?”

It is almost like someone is dangling something in front of you and you cannot find your glasses to read it, so you keep going with the stream to figure out what it is. And I think that was the drive or the pull that got me going. I am a big believer that if you start asking questions you will get answers – a certain book or a certain website all of sudden pops up for you.

Or you meet this one person in the coffee shop and have an in-depth conversation with someone you hardly know, who you never see again, but you end up with this address where you should go next. It is those things that make developing or following your heart’s desire so interesting.

What obstacles/challenges did you face along the way and how did you overcome them?

One of the challenges that I had was it almost felt like the dream I was following did not fit into my regular life.

It almost feels like you go to Hogwarts to go to school and then you come back into diapers and bottles and not enough sleep. So for a long time these things were living a separate life and that made it complicated because you start creating two different uniforms you are wearing, and you have to pay attention to what you say in what uniform, so to speak.

So I think one of the biggest challenges for me was what language do I speak where? And how can I speak plainly to others about what I am doing? Because sometimes you are following a dream or looking for answers in areas where friends and family are not looking. They may not even want to go there and it makes it difficult because you want to value everyone in your life, not make them feel left out, and you do not want to leave people behind.

So you get into a difficult zone where you can create space to keep growing and where you create enough space for people to be themselves and to feel okay with where they are at, because it is not a competition with following big dreams. It is just something that is very personal to your heart and not everyone carries that same dream as you have.

And I think that was one of the big, and still sometimes is, one of the biggest challenges to appreciate everyone as they are and not put any values on whether someone is further ahead or behind. Those are very dangerous words to start using because everyone is exactly where they are supposed to be, so there is no right and no wrong in it. Sometimes in your enthusiasm you can upset people around you and that is not what you want of course, you just want to share. I think that was one of the biggest challenges for me was how to explain what I am doing and let other people be where they are, because you love them so much.

Donna: Yes, I know exactly what you mean. It’s hard to explain something to somebody when it is just not within their frame of reference at all. It is like magic versus muggling and neither makes any sense to the other person. So what sort of things have you done and what have you learned about being okay with following your big dream when other people do not understand? And leaving them where they are?

Well that goes with lots of bruises from falling up and down and learning. And the learning goes both ways especially the people who love you and who really want to understand what you are doing. I think the most important thing is that I figured out where I was at and what was important for me and what were my core values. Having healthy boundaries as well was one of the other things.

So I could explain to others “this is where I am at. This is what is important to me.” But coming from a point of calm and love, saying “okay I am fine where I am and this is where I want to be and I am totally fine with where you are and where you want to be, as long as you are fine with it”. So in a way inviting them to come along on my journey if they want to, but it was okay for them not to join me as I would always come back and visit them.

So I could create a safe haven and a safe space where everyone involved in the conversation or in my life felt safe enough to be vulnerable in saying “okay this is not me or I am not interested in this, but I am so happy for you”. And I could do the same back to them. Now, being longer in this journey I have people who are coming to me and saying “gosh can you help me? What do you see? What do you feel?“

They are starting to get used to the words that I am using and that really helps. I think the other thing that really helped and still helps is that I also work as a massage therapist and that is something tangible. So people can always come with a sore shoulder or muscle aches, and I can physically treat them and sometimes that is the bridge you need to go into a coaching session; or that is the bridge you need for people to understand what you are doing is more than just the physical work and that makes it really cool.

Did everything turn out as you expected it would when you started following this path and answering that urge?

No. No, not at all. Oh my goodness no, it is very confronting when you start following your dream. Of course I can talk for myself, but maybe there is a same red thread going through all the interviews (there is – Donna), but following your dream is very confronting and makes you extremely vulnerable at what you are doing because you are doing something that is close to your heart, it is almost like giving birth to something.

It makes you very vulnerable and we sometimes have these romantic ideas. You think that you are quicker or it will be received so much better by other people. So no, definitely not what I expected it to be, but it has made my life so much better. I can see a silver lining in everything and I am grounded so much better and I can laugh when people look at me like you are always so positive; I have had people say to me “how can you be this positive?” and “no one is this happy”!

I am not happy all the time, but I can see the fun in everything because the universe is a funny place. It just is. Like when you’re treating someone and all of a sudden a painting comes down with a bang… and within two minutes something really deep comes out they needed to clear. It just needed that noise or the painting needed to come down because we were talking about what the painting was like or the colors or whatever.

It was part of the whole process and yeah I could be very upset because the painting is broken, but making the switch for the person in my room and being able to push them through something and heal up something it is just awesome. Because I also know that the painting will be fixed. It is very simple and sometimes you need to trust things.

Another example of this: something was cancelled on Friday and all of a sudden I had time to go home and when I came home my dog was very ill. I would not have been home to pick him up and take him to the vet so that he could be cared for. So something bad turns into something good and you can trust that, and you go with that flow when you are creating your dream. It takes a while to go with that, trust me it is not that easy.

But after ten years of doing it, now I just ask the question “okay why is this?” and I try to figure out what the answer is and nine out of ten times, I have an answer within an hour or two hours or it is right in my face why immediately. I also know that if I do not ask the right questions I do not get the right answers.

What is the best thing about your dream coming true?

Well the best thing is that at the moment I am doing things I really love to be doing. I am open to new things to be added to the dream and how that is going to end or evolve or how it all goes. And I am very grateful for all the people that come into my life and I am able to play my part in the journey of helping them heal what needs to be healed, especially in these times where everything can go really fast and develop quickly.

It is nice to create a space where it is calm and where people can tell their story and where we can figure out what is the core and what needs to be done. All the hard work is being done by the receiving end of course, it is me handing out tools or guiding them or downloading information for them, but it is not about me. I think that the best part of my dream is that I can be of service for someone or something or a situation. I think looking at it now that is one of the most beautiful gifts out of it. It is not about me, it is the outcome that comes out of what I am here to do.

What is the worst thing about your dream coming true?

Well the worst thing was and still is in a way, that I lost a lot of people in the process because they make different choices. I think that is life in general, so it is not really me. Although I love my life now there are people who I miss, who I really thought were my friends and I shared an important part of my life with, and they are not there anymore. It is strange and I think that is something I will never really get used to. I do now have a great appreciation that they have been in my life and the things I learned from them. I even appreciate the heartache I had when they decided to go out of my life or to leave me behind or I left them behind. But that, I do find hard to deal with.

What advice would you have for other people who want to make this Big Dream come true?

I think the biggest thing is to take your time and not to want to go to fast. To really build a foundation that is strong that is something you can lean on is probably the best thing you need or that you can give yourself. Sometimes the energy goes fast and you have to keep up, which is great, but it is important to make sure all the building blocks are secure.

What’s next on your Big Dream list?

At the moment I am trying to venture out with animals, so I’ve started to massage horses and I work with dogs and cats with reiki and it is really cool. I’m looking forward to seeing where that leads.

Renee also offered on the recording a chance to have a free half hour session with her – if you’re interested in this, go to reneevosdewael.com and get in touch with her.

Thank you Renee for sharing your Big Dream Coming True story. Have you had a Big Dream Come True? I’d LOVE to interview you about it – get in touch and share your Big Dream Story.

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3 responses to “Big Dreams Come True: Renee Vos Der Wael Followed Her Intuition”

  1. Reiki Cursos avatar

    Cool. Thanks for sharing. Gratitude!

  2. Donnaonthebeach avatar

    Thank YOU so much for being a guest 😀

  3. Renee avatar

    Thank you so much for having as guest! xxx