Wishcasting: How Do You Wish To Nourish Yourself?

It’s Wishcasting Wednesday. There is power in wishing – putting your wishes out there sets mighty forces into action…

How Do You Wish To Nourish Yourself?

I wish to nourish myself with love for myself, support for myself, 100% belief in myself. I wish to nourish myself with joy, laughter, self-expression, fun, dance (see the daily practice!), creativity, nature, beauty. I wish to nourish myself by caring for myself so well that I feel cradled in the arms of love. I wish to nourish myself in every way that I need nourishment…and mostly that is by backing myself 100%, trusting in me and believing that I can fly high.

Get involved on Jamie’s blog, or leave a comment here. As you wish for yourself, I wish for you also.

Love

Donna.x

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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

What does your reflection in the mirror say to you? What is the first thing that springs to mind when you look at yourself in the mirror every day? Is it something along the lines of “oh my god, you look terrible – you look exhausted. And your skin? You shouldn’t eat junk, look at your spots! And you’re fat.’ Ouch! If you’re talking to yourself like this in the mirror, can I ask if you would EVER speak to someone else like this?

Of course not because that would be mean and nasty and vile and bullying and if they had any self-respect at all they would never talk to you again. And rightly so. So how do you stop yourself being mean? Well, you just replace those nasty comments with some nice ones…and before you know it you will be only saying nice things to you…most of the time! And the most fun thing about this is that other people start reflecting back to you what you are saying to yourself!

Here are some ideas: “You look radiant!” “Have you lost weight?” “You look gorgeous!” “I swear you look younger every day!” “Good morning beautiful” “I love you” “<wolf whistle> Alright sexy?!” Pick one or create one of your own and say it EVERY TIME you pass a mirror, with feeling. Have fun with it, and be your own magic mirror (seriously, this is magical!).

Love

Donna.x

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What Do You Wish To Nourish?

It’s Wishcasting Wednesday. There is power in wishing – putting your wishes out there sets mighty forces into action…

What Do You Wish To Nourish?

After the week I’ve had so far, the answer to this one is EASY! Me. I wish to nourish me. Over the last couple of days I have been working late into the night and realised last night I had brain fry! I had already decided that today would be a much ‘ease-ier’ day work-wise, but this prompt just reinforces my wish to nourish myself. I wish to nourish my body and feed it foods that give me energy (not the empty caloried sweeties I am currently chomping my way through!). I wish to nourish my creativity – Jamie has been a godsend in this regard, reminding me to exercise said creativity and giving lots of tools, tips and ideas that I now use regularly. I wish to nourish my love life. I wish to nourish me – body, mind, heart and soul.

I also wish to nourish my business, and give it the very best chance I can that we together will serve hundreds, thousands, hundreds of thousands of people, maybe even millions (!) helping them to live with purpose, passion and joy. I wish to nourish all the ideas, articles, products and opportunities that come my way and do them justice so that through me these ideas can change someone’s life. And to do all this, I need to nourish me! It all comes back to that, it starts with nourishing me. I can do that!

Get involved on Jamie’s blog, or leave a comment here. As you wish for yourself, I wish for you also.

Love

Donna.x

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Your Mission: Fall in Love with You

This week, your mission (should you choose to accept it) is to treat yourself as if you loved yourself beyond words. Treat yourself as you would a precious child that you want to spoil rotten! Treat yourself as if you thought you could do anything. Treat yourself as if you could do no wrong in your own eyes. Really fall in love with precious, gorgeous, wonderful you.

I love you…but it’s more important that you love you.

Love

Donna.x

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Know When To Stop

A desk piled with paper, a to-do list 12 people couldn’t complete in a month, and a racing mind.

Sound familiar?

Do you know when to switch off, or do you stock up on caffeine and adrenaline and keep going late into the evening…day after day after day?

Here’s a tip: if you need artificial stimulants to keep you going, you need to stop. Probably about 2 hours ago!

Don’t force yourself beyond your endurance. Know when it’s time to stop.

Love

Donna.x

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Feeling Low as Rocket Fuel

What happens to your forward momentum and enjoyment of life when you feel down? Does your low feeling suck the life out of your dreams, desires and love of life? If your answer to that is yes, you’re not unusual. Most of us have a chain reaction to feeling low – feel down, start being negative, wonder if we’ll ever get to wherever it is you want to get, have a very glum face and no energy to move forward at all. We kind of wallow in that mud of misery for a while. After some time of idling and not moving forward, we start to get some forward momentum again and slowly our mood, energy and desire reawaken.

What if you were to use disappointments, doubts and fears to fuel your forward momentum? See them as like reaching the bottom of the swimming pool, if you use the bottom to propel you upwards, you will reach the surface faster and you may even (if you get it right) appear to leap out of the water, like a fish. How? As soon as you notice that you’re feeling a bit ‘meh’, use that as a reminder to take care of yourself, or a reminder to do something that energises you, or a reminder to go have some fun, or a reminder to focus on what you want.

Rather than being ruled by your feelings, use them as cues. It’s like when you see your fuel guage on the car is low, it reminds you to go to the petrol station. As soon as you notice you are feeling empty or low or fearful or discouraged, let it remind you to refuel in whatever way feels right to you. You know yourself best, and you will intuitively know what it is right for you to do. If you’re not that in touch with your intuition, this is a cue to work on sharpening your intuitive skills (which we all have by the way – and the more you use it, the more you will hear it and the more you will understand it).

And if you’re really unsure about what to do – laughter is always the best medicine!

Love

Donna.x

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OnTheBeach – The Gift of Life

Over the past few years, the frailty and fragility of life has been brought home to me at this time of year – my uncle passed away at the end of October, the following year one of my friends lost her fight for life at the end of November. And with Christmas and my birthday coming, I miss them more than ever. No birthday card from my friend will hit the mat, no silly texts from my uncle will arrive. As maudlin as this sounds, it also reminds me how lucky I am to be able to still breathe into these lungs, to enjoy the festive season and to moan incessantly about winter. I am very grateful that my one and only precious self is still here and still healthy.

It also makes me more aware of my own life, and how I am living it. If my life ended, would I be happy with how I had lived? Would I rue missed chances? Would I regret wasted time? Now let me just say here that I do not believe that any time is wasted – every experience helps us to grow and gives us opportunities to be more wonderful…it’s just that sometimes we take the opportunity to be grumpy instead! And as I said last week, this grumpiness gives us the opportunity to turn it around and pay attention to what we do want instead of what is pissing us off.

If life was the most precious gift you had this Christmas (or today, tomorrow and every day), would you treat it the way you currently are? Would you read the care instructions more carefully? Would you have more appreciation for your life, your body, your mind, your heart, your spirit? Do you even notice the absolute miracle that is your life? Can you imagine the chaos if a computer giant were in charge of the mechanics of the human being? You can’t switch us off and on again when we aren’t working…well, I suppose you can, but it’s not an everyday solution!

Imagine – you breathe, think, your heart pumps, you digest food and process waste all without thinking! Imagine the mechanics of something as simple as picking up a pen – and we do it all without thought. It is utterly miraculous. We are utterly miraculous. YOU are utterly miraculous. There is no one else like you in the world. No one else who will have the experiences, thoughts and feelings that you have. And you do all this without much tlc I suspect. Many of us take better care of our belongings than we do our bodies. Our cars are serviced more regularly than we are. It’s not just a question of eating well, drinking water, exercising, all that usual stuff. It’s also about filling your life with joy, filling your heart with love, filling your mind with the idea that life is fun!

Imagine if you had a little tag sticking out of your sides, like your t-shirts have. Care instructions. What would yours say? Mine would say ‘feed nice food, water liberally, exercise daily, make laugh hourly, sleep for 8 hours, surround with lovely people, treat with love and respect and tell her she’s fabulous every time you pass a mirror, make feeling good top priority’. Lol. You are so lucky to be you, with your gifts and talents, with your unique perspective, with your possibilities and potential. With your life. Do you appreciate that gift?

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What would your care label say? What would someone need to do to take the very best care of you? Leave me a comment below and let me know!

Love

Donna.x

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Setting Yourself Up For Success

So this week I was interviewed by Deb Sturgess of Create Your Now virtual conference on the subject of ‘setting yourself up for success’ – it was fabulous! We had such a laugh, and I enjoyed converting another group of people to the virtues of treasuring yourself. Today’s article explores this a little more, but if you really want to get into it, get my free ebook “The First Step to a Joyful Life” by Joining my mailing list. If you are on my mailing list already, this will have been sent to you when you joined (if you’ve lost it, drop me an e-mail and I’ll resend it for you.

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I have noticed that for every one of my clients, if their self-care and energy is weak, their life is harder and their goals more difficult to achieve! If they feel cared for and energised, many of the seeming problems disappear! Life is easier, more fun, doors seem to open with greater regularity and ease…and they FEEL GOOD! This is what I think setting yourself up for success is about – taking the best care of yourself you can so you FEEL GOOD!

Some people object to this because it’s ‘selfish’, but keeping your one and only body, mind, heart and soul running efficiently is not selfish, it is necessary. Do you consider your car selfish for requiring petrol and oil and water to run efficiently? Do you ask your car to run on empty and consider it self-indulgent if it just stops running when it runs out of fuel? No, of course not. It’s ridiculous.

And when you are full up, when you are taken care of and energised, you have more to give. And when you are overflowing, you can overflow onto others, and you can give them more. Imagine this: you have kids, partners, parents, friends and colleagues who all need something from you. And you are only 50% full up. Your kids need 20% of that so you’re down to 30%. Your spouse needs 15%, you’re down to 15.

Your family needs you, and they take that last 15%…and they still want more. In the meantime your best friend is really sick and needs you…but you have nothing left to give. You are now feeling depleted and worn out yourself and you need help from those around you – who are in the same position as you, they have nothing to give! If you are full in the first place, you can give to your children, spouse, family and friends and still feel good.

Especially if you are refilling as you go along. So let’s look at another example. Let’s say you are overflowing, feeling wonderful – you’re at about 200%. As in the example before, you give 20% to your kids, 15% to your spouse, 15-20% to your family, 20% to your best friend…and even if you don’t fill up anymore, you still have 125% to give! The quality of the care and attention you can give is better – you’re not giving the people in your life the dregs of yourself.

And you feel good. So is that really selfish? I don’t think so. I personally think it is more selfish to do it the other way, because you are not able to give as much or as high quality. You are also teaching the people around you that you are worthy…and that they are worthy too. If you can take care of yourself, you give your loved ones permission to take care of themselves too. What could be less selfish?

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Are you setting yourself up for success by taking the best possible care of yourself you can? Are you feeling cared for right now? If the answer is no, what can you do right now to care for yourself? Go do it. Want to share your thoughts on this article? Leave me a comment below. Or pop over to my facebook page and leave a comment there.

Love

Donna.x

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The Tree That Bears the Most Fruit

I am busy preparing for my interview with Deb Sturgess as part of her Virtual Telesummit starting on Friday. Deb wanted to create something to help people in difficult circumstances…and she came up with a virtual conference with 20 speakers (including myself) for $25 dollars! Awesome! This is such a great price, it’s ridiculous! She has some really fantastic people speaking on all sorts of subjects. Why don’t you come and join us? Sign up at www.createyournow.com.

I’ll be being interviewed by Deb on Monday night (UK Time) on the subject of ‘Setting yourself up for success’ – I’m looking forward to it immensely. Let me know if you’re going to be there. And if you are interested in some one to one time creating your now, I have 2 coaching slots up for grabs in October – simply send me an e-mail to find out more and book a time for us to have a chat. (no hard sell – this is just a call to check we get on and I can help you!)

- The Tree That Bears Most Fruit -

I was watching a program at the weekend about the bumper apple crop here in the UK. Apparently the apple trees have gone bananas…as it were. Why? According to the expert, the trees have done so well this year because we had a proper winter. Because it was so cold, the trees had a month or two to be completely dormant, to hibernate if you like. They fully rested for a time, and because of that rest, they were ready to burst into fruit at harvest time. And this got me thinking.

When was the last time you were completely dormant? When was the last time you really rested? I was trying to think myself…and I couldn’t really remember! At weekends I am busily going from place to place, I often end up doing a little work, and although I usually have a lie in, I wouldn’t say I am completely dormant. Of course, I am not a tree. And it is not possible for me to just do nothing for months. I’d get bored for a start. But even when I’m not working, I’m not really resting – I’m walking the dog, mowing the lawn, cleaning, tidying, going out, doing, doing, doing. No wonder I am not having a spectacular harvest of fruit!

I haven’t been able to get this thought out of my head. This idea of being completely dormant, totally rested so that you can create sensational results. I can see it, can’t you? After a holiday, we are more able to cope with life. After we have rested, our minds are clearer, our bodies ready to go again, our enthusiasm restored, we are rejuvenated. But we don’t rest much. Life in 2010 doesn’t really lend itself to any rest time. Dogs, cats, kids, jobs, computers, social lives, friends and family all conspire to keep us busy doing non-stop. No wonder most of us are frazzled instead of dazzling.

My interview with Deb on Monday is going to be about taking care of ourselves so that we can give our best in any given situation. And this idea of proper, dormant, down-time is a big part of that. If the last time you really had some down-time is ‘I can’t remember’ ago, perhaps it’s time to take that time? I know it’s not easy…but it’s worthwhile. Everyone benefits when you are rested. When you are on the go constantly, you become sluggish, short- tempered, irritable, cantankerous and sniippy. Well, I do anyway! Often we do ‘just enough’ to bring us back on an even keel, just enough to stop us becoming homicidal psychotics through exhaustion.

But we don’t usually do enough to really recharge the batteries. And the consequence is that our batteries run out more quickly, more often, and we spend a lot of time in that fruitless, unproductive place of fogginess that comes from a lack of true rest. True rest is taking time to do nothing. No thinking. No doing. No racing from place to place. Nothing. I know it’s tough and who the hell has time to do nothing…but here’s the thing. 1 minute of doing nothing is a good start. Can you find a minute in your day? Just to sit and let your mind empty (some people call it meditation but don’t let that freak you out). To sit and watch the stars or the clouds or the leaves on the trees or the sunset or the world go by. If you want to be like the apple tree and have spectacular results then you have to make the time to be dormant so you can be fruitful and abundant.

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Take a minute today to do nothing. Just a minute. If you can, take a few minutes. And just do nothing. Allow yourself the luxury of being dormant. Let me know how you get on. Leave me a comment below. Or pop over to my facebook page and leave a comment there.

Love

Donna.x
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What Did You Do Right Today?

If I asked you at the end of the day what you did wrong, or what you ‘should’ have done that you didn’t do, how many answers would you have for me? (just a rough guess, you don’t need to count exactly!)

My guess is that you could think of 10-20 things quite easily.

Now, what if I were to ask you what you did RIGHT today? What are you pleased with? What are you proud of? Can you get 10-20 again?

Again, my guess is that you would find this more difficult! Why is it so easy to criticise ourselves but so hard to praise ourselves? Which is more motivating? Constant criticism or constant praise? Which do you do to yourself?

Just for today, notice what you got RIGHT. Then, you could maybe do it again tomorrow…and the next day…and the next day.

I wonder how much happier you’d be if you did this every day?

Love

Donna.x

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