Ask Donna: My Big Dream Got Stuck Should I Keep Going?

Q: I have been merrily taking action on my Big Dream for months now, and all of a sudden I seem to have got stuck. I can’t see any sign that what I’m doing is working and I’m wondering whether to bother keeping going? – Elaine

Sadly, for us impatient folks, things do take time. Often the people who succeed are not better or smarter or luckier…they are just more persistent! Stubborn-ness can be a good trait when you’re trying to achieve something difficult! I have always said that when I have done everything I can think of to make this work OR if I don’t want it anymore, I’ll stop. Otherwise I’ll keep on going. And one of my mentors, Carole Dore (http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=1394969), says that if you were taking all the action that inspiration is showing you, you’d be too busy to notice that your Big Dream isn’t here yet!

So just keep going!

Love

Donna.x

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Podcast: Taking Risks and Your Big Dream

Your Big Dream lies outside your comfort zone…so do you need to leap out of your comfort zone, take big risks, jump out of the plane?? Or is there another way? I believe so…an easier way, a gentler way. Just nudge the edges of your comfort zone, put a toe outside your comfort zone and expand your comfort zone slowly and steadily. If you do this persistently, your comfort zone will get bigger, easily.

To listen to this week’s podcast, click here: Taking Risks And Your Big Dream
(or to download to your computer, right click on the link and ‘save link as’ or ‘save target as’)
Homework:
Identify something that is ‘just’ outside your comfort zone…and go do it! Go take little risks, and lots of them, and expand your comfort zone bit by bit.

You can also subscribe to this podcast on itunes here.

May all your dreams become reality.

Love

Donna.x

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You Gotta Have Friends

Among the many wonderful things about self-employment, there are a few things that totally suck. One is the fact that every day you have to pick yourself up to work – whether you feel good or bad, prosperous or broke, whether everything is going well or everything is going wrong, whether you have lots of clients or are wondering if the whole world left for another planet and no one told you. Every morning, day after day, you have to pick yourself up to do some work.

And no one else tells you what you need to be doing either. You can work for a week on something and then realise it doesn’t work and have to start again. You have moments where it is all coming together, and moments when it all falls apart. Days when you seem to meet ideal clients, business partners, mentors and new friends with ease, and days when you are so isolated you accost the postman for a chat.

There are times when this gets exhausting, and all you want to do is lay your head on the desk and weep. And at these times there are 2 things to remember: Number one, check your level of self-care – when you’re self-employed it is even more important that you take care of the engine, because if your engine breaks there’s no one else to step in. And Number two, you gotta have friends – remember they are there for you when you need them.

I recently had one of those days where everything looked immensely bleak, it was all very difficult and I was too exhausted to pick myself up and carry on. Luckily one of my friends called as I was in the middle of my stress, and the troops rallied round to help me. One friend offered me help to get shit done, one offered me a facial, one offered me a big hug, one offered me a shoulder to (literally) cry on, and one told me that if I got in this state without calling her again, she’d beat me up!

See, you gotta have friends!

Love

Donna.x
PS thank you friends. Love you. xxx

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Reflect Upon Your Blessings

…Reflect upon your blessings, of which every man has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some… – Charles Dickens

Do you spend more time reflecting on what a shame it is for you that you don’t have this or that, or on how lucky you are to have plentiful, running water; to have enough food to live; to have so many possessions you desperately need to clear clutter; to have access to any kind of education at all; to be able to express your opinion without being in fear of your life; for the air you breathe; for the sunshine; for spring flowers?

I could go on forever. Of course life is not perfect, but it’s a heck of a lot better than we sometimes give it credit for! It is easy to focus on the ‘what is missing’ from life, and sometimes it can be helpful – when you can see what’s missing, you can sort it out. But when it becomes an endless litany of why your life sucks, that’s no fun! (and doesn’t help you change anything) For today at least, take your attention off the misfortune in your life and reflect more on your blessings, and Happy Dance because your life is so filled with fortune!

Love

Donna.x

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Podcast: Time and Your Big Dream

The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important. What are you making more important than your Big Dream? TV? Surfing the internet? Reading trashy magazines? Are these things more important than your Big Dream? You may also find that you need less time than you think… just 10 minutes every day can find you making huge progress on your Big Dream.

To listen to this week’s podcast, click here: Time And Your Big Dream

Homework:
Look at how you can make some time in your busy life to work on your Big Dream every day. Cut out a bit of tv time, stop surfing the internet, cut out non essential time wasters. Take the time for your Big Dream…just a little bit of time…every day.

You can also subscribe to this podcast on itunes here.

May all your dreams become reality.

Love

Donna.x

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Ask Donna: Conflicting Advice

Q: I have shared my big dream with friends and family, and they all have lots of advice for me…the trouble is all the advice conflicts and contradicts and I am now so confused I don’t know what to do! Whenever I say, this is what I’m going to do, someone tells me it won’t work and gives me a different idea to pursue – then someone else tells me that won’t work and so on. Who is right? – Karen

Other people give you advice from their perspective of the world, and sometimes their advice is just not relevant to you. You are the authority in your life, and you need to take charge. It is a gift that you get to do this, take charge, and become your own authority. Some people never get to do it and always live someone else’s life.

To be the authority in your life, you need to connect with your inner wisdom – my March Daily Practice will help you to connect with what you know – here’s the blog post hMarch Daily Practice

If you have a question, leave a comment below or contact me.

Love

Donna.x

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Time To Stand and Stare

Today, I was in a ‘standing and staring’ mood…but there were things to be done, places to go, people to see… So I tried to be productive and busy, but throughout the day I kept coming back to one thing: standing and staring. In the end, I allowed myself to sit in the garden in the sun and just stare…at nothing and something when something caught my eye, but mostly at nothing. Aaaah. What sweet relief there is in just standing (or sitting) and staring. When I did my Daily Practice for March and checked in with myself, my mind said this: It is ok to sit and stare. Those moments of ‘nothing’ are very cleansing and powerful.

When was the last time you allowed yourself to partake in this cleansing, powerful practice? When was the last time you want to just sit and watch the world go by and you actually did it? What if you were to allow yourself to do this? What power might be released? What cleansing might happen? Of course, this reminded me of the poem ‘Leisure’ by William Henry Davis:

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty’s glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

Take the time this week to stand and stare.

Love

Donna.x

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Ask Donna – My Big Dream to go to Uni

Q: My big dream is to get a university degree – all my friends went to uni and they think it’s no big deal and don’t understand why I want to do it, but I got a job, settled down and had my kids and I feel like I missed out. Because everyone else feels like it’s no big deal, I feel even worse that it TERRIFIES me, and that even though I’ve wanted to do this for years, I STILL haven’t done anything about it. – Ann

Your friends have probably just forgotten that they were frightened when they went to uni…don’t feel like you’re the only one who is scared of this – you’re not. And don’t worry about not having taken action to now…dreams need time to ferment and you need time to come to terms with your dream and become the person who can do this…and you are ready to go.

Universities are used to dealing with mature students and will be able to reassure you. Take action! Take baby steps and get moving towards that big dream of yours. Get support – someone who will support you, encourage you, and can understand that it’s a big deal to you. Take little steps that are not so scary. You can do it – good luck!

Love

Donna.x

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Podcast: Barriers Between You and Your Big Dream

There are going to be barriers between you and your big dream. But that’s good news (as well as bad news) because now you know they WILL come up, you can just get over it, under it, through it, round it. Another piece of good news is that most barriers look bigger than they really are! Once you get through them, you will look back and see they were not that big a deal.

Perhaps you know someone who seemed to have such an easy time of it…but trust me, they had barriers too. When you continually overcome the barriers, it gets easier and easier to get over, under, through or round any barriers that get in your way.

To listen to this week’s podcast, click here: Barriers Between You And Your Big Dream

Homework:
Think about the barriers between you and your big dream and just imagine going over, under, through, round those barriers. And whatever barrier you think might be standing in your way right now, get the help you need to get through that barrier!

You can also subscribe to this podcast on itunes here.

May all your dreams become reality.

Love

Donna.x

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February Special Offer

February can be a ‘blah’ month – winter has dragged on forever, it’s still cold, dark and in the UK right now snowy. Yuck. Your New Year’s Resolutions have fallen by the wayside, and this year is looking to be just the same as last year. But it doesn’t have to stay that way! You can change it.

And to help you do so, I present my February Special Offer: 4 coaching sessions for the price of 3. £172.50 for 4 coaching sessions (to be taken within 8 weeks of booking). What are you waiting for? Get in touch right now to arrange a chat to check it’s for you or to nab one of the places, which of course are limited as this offer was announced to my newsletter list last week. I look forward to working with you!

Love

Donna.x

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