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So last week, I took time out for the first time to Ride Wild Donkeys. In my morning pages, this is what my soul said on day 3: “Thank you for showing up 3 days in a row to Ride Wild Donkeys. Thank you for trusting in your (our) ideas. Thank you for moving forward without knowing how it will turn out. Thank you for your courage, your faith and your trust in me. Thank you.”
You’d think showing up to Ride Wild Donkeys (take product creation ideas forward) would be fairly easy huh? But as that comment from my soul shows, it takes courage, trust, faith and focus. It was fascinating how tough it actually was! On Day 1, I LOVED it, at the end of the day I wanted to spend all day every day creating new stuff, and I was mentally SPENT! My soul cup had been well and truly emptied!
Day 2 wasn’t quite such a success, I’d had a bad night’s sleep so didn’t get to work as early as I wanted, so I started the day with self-criticism on full blast. That wasn’t so much fun…and is NOT helpful for Wild Donkey Riding – if you manage to get on the Donkey at all, your self-abuse makes you fall off! So, I had to spend an hour sorting that out first before I could really get into it! Day 3 was only half a day, and as I so often do, I tried to squeeze too much into that half a day, making it almost impossible to be satisfied by the end of the day!
What was great was how much I learned about how I Ride Wild Donkeys…and how to support myself the best in it. Sometimes we try an experiment and if there’s some negatives, we view it as a failure. But it’s not. It’s given you lots of feedback about what works and what doesn’t, and will help you do better next time. So, from the one great day and one ‘meh’ day and one ‘too short’ day’s Wild Donkey Riding, here’s my ten top tips:
1. Log out of facebook, twitter and e-mail. If you have to log in for a specific task, do said task and LOG OUT again. If possible, wait until the end of the day to do that task. Social media and e-mail are too tempting and too distracting.
2. Bring your journal/morning pages to the party – write before you start, write when you get stuck, write when you feel you need to move through something, write when your inner critic pops up, write when you want to give yourself a hi-5, write to clear your mind and focus your mind and encourage your creativity out to play.
3. Take time to meditate – this will help clear your mind and bring wonderful creative ideas to the fore.
4. Go with the flow of your energy – if your energy is dipping, get up and dance, or stretch, or get outside for a few minutes – do whatever you need to do to re-energise. Don’t just keep your nose to the grindstone…it’s counter-productive!
5. Put your phone on silent – it’s another distraction, get rid of it.
6. Choose which donkeys you will ride…if new donkeys show up, write them down for the next donkey riding day. In my half-day of Wild Donkey Riding, I realised it was stupid to try to ride all 3 of the Wild Donkeys I was working on – it spread my energy and time too thin.
7. Cover up the time on your computer, hide your clock. ‘What time it is’ is another distraction. If you need to stop by a certain time, set an alarm.
8. Keep a list of things to do AFTER so they don’t distract you DURING. It’s so easy to get distracted by one random thought after another. When you’re riding wild donkeys, don’t do anything else!
9. Have fun!
10. Switch off your inner critic. Seriously, give them a day off!
Although I am a fan of the ‘chipaway’ method of getting stuff done, when it comes to getting product ideas off the ground, I’m converted to Riding Wild Donkeys! When you work this way you can really immerse yourself in the project, following the wonderful energy of creation without having to stop every five minutes to tick off another thing from the to-do list! There is no place to hide when you’re working on something exclusively.
So many times last week I found my fingers itching to open facebook or twitter or e-mail to distract myself from an uncomfortable feeling, a fear, a sudden dip in confidence, a mind-blank. Because I couldn’t, I worked through a LOT of stuff! Having no place to hide can also feel like a bad thing, but if you want to achieve more in your life, it’s good to hold your heels to the fire occasionally (metaphorically, DO NOT do this in ‘real’ life!)
When you immerse yourself in a project (or 3!), shit gets done! OMG does shit get done! Once I’d stopped beating myself up for everything I hadn’t done last week, I realised just how much progress I’d made. In 3 days, more progress than I had in the previous 3 months! Ouch. Another good thing is the use of sparkly pens and post-it notes! That could just be me, but the Riding of Wild Donkeys did take a lot of stationery love from me!
And of course, your soul cup is empty at the end of the day. Because you haven’t been piddling about on Facebook/Twitter/ E-mail/the endless to-do list, you are really giving everything you have to your creative project. Ok, by the end of the day you’re SPENT, you’re at the cutting edge of your comfort zone, and none of the busy work gets done…but other than that, I’m a HUGE fan! So much so, that as you read this, I’ll be on the last day of another 2.5 days of Wild Donkey riding!
I saw this quote this morning “You’ve got what it takes, but it will take everything you’ve got”. When you give your all, you open the door to more – more creativity, more joy, more ideas, more energy, and you’ve got more to give. It’s awesome! So why wouldn’t we go all in? Here’s a few of the most common reasons: fear of failure, fear of success, lack of self-confidence, feeling unworthy, lack of role models who inspire you to greater. All of which can be overcome. Listen to find out more.
To listen to this week’s podcast, click here: You’ve Got What It Takes
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Part 1: Where are you holding back from giving everything you’ve got to your Big Dream?
Part 2: What would be different if you gave your all to your Big Dream?
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May all your dreams become reality.