The Truth of You

“I can’t tell you what your next action will be, but mine involved a full stop. I had to stop living unconsciously, as if I had all the time in the world. The love and good and the wild and the peace and creation that are you will reveal themselves, but it is harder when they have to catch up to you in roadrunner mode. So one day I did stop. I began consciously to break the rules I learned in childhood: I wasted more time, as a radical act. I stared off into space more, into the middle distance, like a cat. This is when I have my best ideas, my deepest insights.

Obviously, it is in many people’s best interest for you not to find yourself, but it only matters that it is in yours—and your back’s—and the whole world’s, to proceed.

There’s always something ending and something beginning. Yet in the very center is the truth of your spiritual identity: is you.Fabulous, hilarious, darling, screwed-up you. Beloved of God and of your truest deepest self, the self that is revealed when tears wash off the makeup and grime. The self that is revealed when dealing with your anger blows through all the calcification in your soul’s pipes. The self that is reflected in the love of your very best friends’ eyes. The self that is revealed in divine feminine energy, your own, Bette Midler’s, Hillary Clinton’s, Tina Fey’s, Michelle Obama’s, Mary Oliver’s. I mean, you can see that they are divine, right? Well, you are, too. I absolutely promise. I hope you have gotten sufficiently tired of hitting the snooze button; I know that what you need or need to activate in yourself will appear; I pray that your awakening comes with ease and grace, and stamina when the going gets hard. To love yourself as you are is a miracle, and to seek yourself is to have found yourself, for now. And now is all we have, and love is who we are.”
- Anne Lamott

Take this and read it again and again and again until you have absorbed it all. I have read it every day for 2 weeks and every time I feel my spirit lift. May it do the same for you.

Love

Donna.x

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Your Imperfections are So Beautiful

There is a song by British indie band The Tears – here’s a snippet of the lyric:
“Your imperfections are so beautiful
I can’t control my animal soul
Your imperfection has got me on a chain
Can’t concentrate
I’m a sucker for your beautiful mistakes
…
Your imperfections make you what you are
My defective star
My inelegant love”

I love the whole thing. I always resonate so much more with people who allow themselves to be vulnerable, to be real, to be perfectly imperfect…to be HUMAN! My old coach used to say to me, whenever I admitted an imperfection “OHMIGOD YOU’RE HUMAN?!?!?!?” Lol. Yes we are. Human. Allowed to be rubbish! Allowed to have a bad day. And our imperfections make us who we are…

Part of our unique essence comes from our imperfections, just as part comes from our gifts. One without the other is wierd. I personally don’t know any perfect people. I know some people who try to be perfect, and deny or suppress or hide their imperfections. I’ve done it myself at times. And it is painful. Because when you start denying parts of you, it is like cutting off a limb. And why? To appear perfect?

You ask me, flaws are more perfect. Because they are real. Don’t worry about being ‘perfect’. Instead focus on being YOU. All of you. Imperfections and all. Authentic, real…and therefore attractive, magnetic, beautiful, a shining star. And while you’re at it, why not look for the wonderful in the flawed. For example, I am lazy…which means I get to read lots of good books and sit in the garden in the sunshine a lot. This is a good thing! I am also quite a grump at times…which means that I rarely get taken for a mug because I’m just too arsey!!

I could tell you for HOURS what imperfections I have and why they’re great (I’m stubborn as a mule, which make me persistent; I’m really flaky at times, which makes me multi-passionate and creative; I eat too much junk food, which gives me lots of padding for winter!) but I won’t go on about how perfectly imperfect I am! I want to hear about you. What beautiful imperfections do you have…and what is GOOD about them?

Share your thoughts, leave me a comment or contact me through the website and let me know, and if you’re not sure what is good about YOUR imperfection, share it anyway!

Love

Donna.x
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Your Greatest Accomplishment

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson. And to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else requires you to know who you are, accept who you are and love who you are. Warts and all. Imagine this…even with all your faults, all your problems, all the things you do and say wrong, you are still wonderful.

That combination of genius (that you never acknowledge), brilliance (that you never acknowledge) and mess (which you give way too much importance to) makes up the unique creation that is you. In order to be yourself, you need to be the one part of the world that isn’t trying to make you be something different. Be yourself – your real self, with your creativity, your passion, your joy, your grumpiness, your impatience. Be all of you…and that will be your greatest accomplishment.

Love

Donna.x

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Honest as the Day is Long

I was talking to a friend today about honesty, and some people’s inability to be honest! Then I noticed that my affirmation for the day was “I communicate clearly and honestly. People can trust that what I say is true.” Nothing like a bit of reinforcement to entertain a person. The thing with dishonesty is that not only do other people not trust you, you don’t even trust yourself! And you become a fraction of your real self, because you are hiding behind a mask of dishonesty.

Honesty doesn’t have to be hurtful! I am very rarely offensive when I am being honest, because I do have some skill in tact and diplomacy! Most people like directness, most people prefer the straightforward approach…and most of us HATE to be lied to! So, be honest – are you being honest with yourself? Are you being honest in your dealings with others? Are you being honest about who you are?

If not, you’re wasting energy and hiding your brilliance. So think about it – be honest at least with yourself, and allow yourself to be who you really are.

Love

Donna.x

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Video: Who Is Your Best Self?

When you are being completely fabulous, feeling good, on top form, who are you being? What qualities does your best self have? What does it mean to you to be your best self? Are you being that person? Could you be that person more? Find a way this week to exercise an aspect of your best self, and let me know how it goes!

Check out my youtube channel for more videos. Happy weekend!

Love

Donna.x

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A One Shot Deal

There is only one of you in all of time. Be the person you came here to be.

Love

Donna.x

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OnTheBeach – A Shining Beacon of Light

A note from Donna

Brrrrrr…Well, I can now feel November approaching in the air – the good news is that I am writing this sat beside a roaring fire and I don’t have to go back outside today. I’m sure I was a bear (or some other hibernating creature) in a previous life! I’m making good progress with my latest project – Banishing Money Misery course. Soon I will need people to test it out, check it makes sense and critique it. In return, these lovely people will be the first to see it, and get a copy for nothing! If that sounds like it could be of interest to you, and you’d like more details, please e-mail me.

A Shining Beacon of Light

Imagine that you are standing outside as the sky gets dark. As the light fades, you switch on a torch – this torch stays as a shining beacon of light no matter how dark the sky becomes. Now imagine that you are the torch, and the darkness is your workplace. Many people tell me (and indeed I remember living it!) that their workplace is full to bursting with negative, petty, malicious and spiteful people.

The irony being that if you were to meet any one of those people outside the workplace, you would probably find that they were lovely! Often this ‘bad’ behaviour is just thoughtlessness rather than malice, inattentiveness rather than spite. Some places just seem to breed that uncomfortable atmosphere that makes people behave badly…but wait! “Makes” them behave badly? Does someone hold a gun to their head and say “Today you will backstab, gossip and be petty and irritable”?

No…it is a choice we all make. And often the choice is not whether we are loving or malicious – most of us would not choose to be malicious – but whether to react to your environment or rise above it. Whether to switch off your torch and join the darkness or keep shining. It is often said that it is so hard to keep being fabulous in a situation where everyone else is being negative and foolish.

But actually it just requires a little more attention, a bit of determination and a strong sense of how wonderful you are. We all have a great need for acceptance, but if that acceptance means turning down who we are – becoming less fabulous, less loving, less friendly, less wonderful, that is too high a price to pay. This subject came up this week because one of the nicest, most compassionate, lovely people I know was griping about work and the petty, self-serving behaviour…that they had joined into.

Although I understand how it happens, and I’ve done it 1000 times myself, I was shocked that this shining beacon of compassion and gorgeousness would stoop to the level set by other people. And I couldn’t help but feel that their workplace, and indeed the world was a darker place without their full fabulousness. If you are not your fully fabulous self in your workplace, or even with your family and friends, you need to pay attention. Protect yourself from other people’s energies, be mindful of who you really are, and DO NOT let them put out your light.

Something to play with

Close your eyes for a few seconds and imagine yourself as a beacon of light. Is your light shining out strongly and fully, reflecting your magnificence? Or is it dimmed, darkened, hidden? Imagine that light shining brilliantly and like rays of sunshine, your light uplifting the world around you. Open your eyes and carry on with your day…mindful that you are responsible for shining your light, and you MUST NOT allow it to dim.

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