Moan, Whinge, Complain
March 1, 2010 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
I just read a blog post on www.breaktheillusion.com about complaining. Davey Wavey had decided to have a ‘complaint free’ day…which lasted 3.5 minutes. This just really made me laugh. And also made me think about you guys – do you know how much you complain? How long would you last on a complaint free day?
I like to think I don’t complain much…but I do! Compared to when I worked 9-5 in a job I hated, I complain 1000% less…but I still complain quite a lot. Especially in winter about the weather. Don’t even get me started on snow. Think of the old saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” I know people who would never speak if they followed this rule – are you one of them?
Now I’m not suggested you just never speak unless you’re talking sunshine…pretending all is happiness and flowers is just as destructive as constant complaining. But do notice when you are complaining and what you are complaining about. And if you could maybe reduce the complaining time and up the amount of time you talk about what’s good in life.
Constant complaint is depressing. The world isn’t going to hell in a hand-basket, but if you listen to some conversations you would think there was nothing good in anyone’s world. Yuck. So just for a little while, instead of thinking about what’s wrong with your life, the world, yourself; think about what’s brilliant. And have some fun NOT complaining!
Love
Donna.x
Did you find this post of interest? Why not sign up FREE to my blog updates and/or weekly newsletter? and get a FREE copy of my e-book “First Step To A Joyful Life”!
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Living Life With Passion
October 30, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
When you think of Loving Life, what comes to mind?
When you think of Living Passionately, what comes to mind?
When you think of Living Joyfully, what comes to mind?
It is my humble opinion that life is to be lived and loved, passionately, fully, joyfully. For too many of us, we don’t. Love of life, passion and joy are things we don’t even think about. Well, this weekend I have a mission for you – start falling in love with life, living passionately and joyously. How? As ever, one step at a time. Answer the questions above – what comes to mind…and what can you do this weekend to start falling in love with life, living passionately and/or living joyfully?
I see you having a weekend full of love, passion, joy and laughter.
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Life…T’is a Serious Business
August 11, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
Do you remember the day when you set foolishness, silliness, ridiculousness and your sense of humour aside to become ‘grown up’? No, probably not as if we realised what exactly we’d have to sacrifice in order to be mature and adult, we wouldn’t do it! I want to know who decided that we should take life seriously? I want to know who took the absurd decision that everything that happens is a matter of life and death.
Because whoever it was they were wrong. Many of the things we get wound up and stressed about and take enormously seriously are utterly irrelevant in the grand scheme of things! One of my favourite exercises to give coaching clients is the ’so what?’ game. Someone was rude to you. So what? So that’s rude. So what? There’s a certain point at which you realise that it really doesn’t matter.
People can’t offend you unless you take offense. Events in your life can’t get you down unless you let them. Life can’t be serious unless you insist on taking it seriously. Stick your tongue out in the general direction of whatever is getting on your nerves and get on with taking life frivolously.
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Farting Around
July 29, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
“I tell you, we are here on earth to fart around, and don’t let anybody tell you different.” Kurt Vonnegut
I found this quote yesterday on a card, and I’m adopting it as my favourite piece of wisdom of 2009! It always amuses me that people who enjoy their lives (or fart around) are seen as somehow ‘less than’ people who work hard, do the sensible things, are grown up, and largely miserable. What if we as a society have got it completely wrong, and life is not about the accumulation of stuff, how hard you can work, how grown up you can be? What if it is just about farting around?
Well, if this is so, I am ahead in this new world order! To farting around – hazah!
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Start Where You Are
July 28, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to start where he was.” Lao-Tzu
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Oblivious to Criticism
July 16, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
“All of us could take a lesson from the weather.
It pays no attention to Criticism.”
I’ve seen this one a few times before, and always love it! Thanks to my mate Hils who sent the e-mail containing this today. Ain’t it true? We brits love to discuss (moan) about the weather…but it takes absolutely no notice. Just carries on doing it’s own thing.
Imagine it. You are oblivious to what ‘other people’ might say or think, you just carry on doing your own thing… How might you have lived your life differently? How could you live life differently now? It’s your life, are you the one living it?
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Life Is A Song
June 29, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
Life is a song – sing it
Life is a game – play it
Life is a challenge – meet it
Life is a dream – realise it
Life is a sacrifice – offer it
Life is love – enjoy it
– Sai Baba
This week sing, play and enjoy life to your full capacity.
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Unstick Your Stuck Pooh Stick
June 26, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Articles, Blog posts
Remember Pooh-sticks? The game Winnie the Pooh and friends played where they drop a stick into the water on one side of the bridge, and the first stick to reach the other side wins. Now, imagine that life is like a game of Pooh sticks…and you are the stick. The stick is happily floating downstream in the river of life…until it gets stuck. Maybe it’s wedged in with a bunch of other sticks, maybe it’s caught in a little eddy, going round and round and round.
Does this sound like your life? Is your stick stuck? Does it help your stick to complain about being stuck to all the other sticks? Does it help to moan that your stick is too fat, too stupid, too stuck? No. Your stick is still stuck. The stick isn’t a bad stick for getting stuck – it just got stuck. It happens in the river of life. Some sticks float down the river without ever getting stuck (although I’ve not once met one!), but most get stuck sometimes.
Now imagine that all you have to do is get your stick unstuck…that’s your only task. See the thing about getting stuck is that you don’t have to stay stuck. Sometimes you will need to move a load of other sticks around you to be able to move, sometimes it’s just a matter of pointing the stick back downstream, and sometimes you have to throw a rock at the stick to get it moving.
Again, the stick isn’t bad…no matter what it takes to get it moving again, the stick is just stuck. No more, no less. Are you getting the relevance of this metaphor to your life? Maybe you are not stuck right now…if not, great! Remember to enjoy the flow of life, and notice what is going on around you. Maybe you can avoid getting stuck for a while. When (if) you do get stuck, and if you are stuck now, your only task is to get unstuck.
My stick gets stuck on a regular basis – it might be a business challenge, or relationships, or outside influences, or health trouble, or writing, or any other ‘obstacle’ in life. I don’t mind getting stuck anymore, because I know lots of tools that will help me move my stick – coaching, journalling, gratitude, vision, friends, colleagues, clients, the list is endless. A few years ago the only way I knew was to throw a rock at the stick!
I want you to know that you don’t have to throw a rock at the stick – life change doesn’t have to be shocking and hard, and totally disorientating. You can let it be easy. As long as you are working on getting your stick back into the flow of life, it’s all good. And where is the flow going? Well, Nirvana of course. The joyful life. It’s not that far away…you just might get stuck a time or two. But your only job is to keep your stick unstuck and flowing.
I wish you this weekend a flowing, wonderful, joyous ride on the river of life!
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Video: Rushing the River
Life will happen in its own sweet time (divine timing), so why waste energy rushing the river. You can absolutely get into the fastest flowing current (the fun, joyful, high energy place), but when we try to push and force, it actually holds us back. Lie back in your inflatable dinghy and enjoy the ride.
www.youtube.com/donnaonthebeach
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
Every Moment is a Choice
March 16, 2009 by Donna
Filed under Blog posts
How many choice points do you think you have in your life? Do you only see the “big” choice points – this job or that job, this relationship or a single life, buy a house or go to Australia. What would you think if I told you that this moment is a choice point?
And this one?
And this one?
And this moment right here?
What choices can you make in this moment?
Here’s a couple of ideas:
I guess you’re getting the gist of this. So what choices are you making? In every moment, you have the choice to change or not. There is no right or wrong in this by the way – no judgement, no blame. Just choice. So if you were to choose to do the most self-loving thing you could for yourself in this moment, what would happen? I understand that you may be at work and unable to have a long hot bath, but given the constraints you have, what would be the most self-loving thing to do?
How about if you chose to see the silver lining? What might change? Chose to do your best in this moment? Chose to LIVE? Chose to raise your energy? Chose to smile? (maybe even BEAM, chuckle, laugh, guffaw?!) You may choose to do the opposite of all of these – to see the worst, to do your worst, to exist apathetically, to lower your energy (we’re very good at that), to frown…but that’s your choice! So if that’s what you’ve chosen, I hope you’re enjoying it. (Once you get to a certain level of positivity, having a bad day can be fun too!)
What are you choosing in this moment? Let me know – leave a comment.
Love
Donna.x
Post Footer automatically generated by Add Post Footer Plugin for wordpress.
