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		<title>What&#8217;s Wrong With Me</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:35:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>Working for the Dark Side</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Jun 2010 08:22:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>When I&#8217;m On Good Form</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:34:23 +0000</pubDate>
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When I am on good form, I am a business GENIUS!  When I am on good form I am creative, productive, focused, I have a lot of fun and life is easy.  When I am on good form I enjoy life more.  When I am on good form I don&#8217;t take the [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>Unstick Your Stuck Pooh Stick</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Jun 2009 15:24:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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Remember Pooh-sticks? The game Winnie the Pooh and friends played where they drop a stick into the water on one side of the bridge, and the first stick to reach the other side wins. Now, imagine that life is like a game of Pooh sticks…and you are the stick. The stick is happily floating downstream [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>Video:  When You Are Not Being Your Best Self</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Apr 2009 08:40:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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Your best self is that part of you that is joyful, fun, laid back, generous, loving, happy, cheerful, peaceful.  When we feel bad, it is usually because we are not being our best self.  It is not what is done to us that makes us feel bad, but what we are being in [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>Video:  Rushing the River</title>
		<link>http://www.donnaonthebeach.com/blog/index.php/2009/04/08/video-rushing-the-river/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:01:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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Life will happen in its own sweet time (divine timing), so why waste energy rushing the river. You can absolutely get into the fastest flowing current (the fun, joyful, high energy place), but when we try to push and force, it actually holds us back. Lie back in your inflatable dinghy and enjoy the ride.

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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>OnTheBeach &#8211; Are Your Good Habits Wrecking Your Life?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Mar 2009 09:37:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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I have written a lot about self-care over the last few years (for my free ebook on self-care, click here), and the basic idea of self-care is doing things that care for you – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  I am often intrigued by how people (including myself) do the opposite of self-care, they [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>OnTheBeach &#8211; In It For The Long Haul</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Jan 2009 08:38:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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So how are things going in your one and only life?  Everything going perfectly to plan?  Every goal you’ve ever had achieved?  Still as optimistic and positive as you were when you were 19?  No?  Welcome to the Human Race!  Only it is not a race…there are no prizes [...]]]></description>
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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		<title>Enjoying the Win</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Apr 2008 10:46:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donnaonthebeach</dc:creator>
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Last week, I was at a client&#8217;s offices and in the meeting room they had a picture titled &#8220;Face each problem with a will to win&#8221; with a picture of athletes in agony (marathon runners by the look of them). I admire the sentiment. Determination, tenacity and will gets you far.
BUT.
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<p>Why is it that the first place we go to when we&#8217;re upset, angry or ill is &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  I&#8217;ve had a few conversations over the bank holiday which went to the &#8216;wrong with me&#8217; place.  My friend was upset &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  You&#8217;re upset!  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  I was angry &#8211; what&#8217;s wrong with me?  Nothing.  I was angry.  I got over it!  Another friend was feeling really exhausted &#8211; &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me?&#8217;  Nothing.  She&#8217;s run down, tired and needs to chill out with a big bar of chocolate, a book and a bath.  Once she&#8217;d done that over the weekend, the feeling of exhaustion went away.</p>
<p>As did the sense that something was &#8216;wrong&#8217;.  What annoys me about this focus (and I do it too) is that it always puts us in the naughty chair.  We&#8217;re angry, hurt, upset, feeling under the weather and we&#8217;re looking for &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217;.  You know what?  There&#8217;s nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you.  You&#8217;re just <strong>human</strong>.  Humans feel emotions.  They feel hurt, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, sadness, tiredness.  Humans (as a general rule) are not happy, skippy, bouncy every day.  You know me, I&#8217;m a &#8216;joyful life&#8217; coach &#8211; it&#8217;s all about enjoying your life for me.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean denying &#8216;negative&#8217; emotions.  That doesn&#8217;t mean putting yourself in the naughty corner for feeling how you feel.  Ironically, living joyfully means living fully with your experience.  It is very hard to be joyful when you have unacknowledged anger or sadness.  It is difficult to be joyous when you are exhausted.  But there is nothing &#8216;wrong&#8217; with you when you get cross, when you are sad, when you are tired.  You&#8217;re just cross, or sad, or tired.  Not defective.  So do me a favour and quit asking &#8216;what&#8217;s wrong with me&#8217; because the truth is that you are beautiful, wonderful, fabulous, amazing, a unique, brightly shining star&#8230;and you&#8217;re allowed to be HUMAN!</p>
<p>Love</p>
<p>Donna.x
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