Your Imperfections are So Beautiful

There is a song by British indie band The Tears – here’s a snippet of the lyric:
“Your imperfections are so beautiful
I can’t control my animal soul
Your imperfection has got me on a chain
Can’t concentrate
I’m a sucker for your beautiful mistakes
…
Your imperfections make you what you are
My defective star
My inelegant love”

I love the whole thing. I always resonate so much more with people who allow themselves to be vulnerable, to be real, to be perfectly imperfect…to be HUMAN! My old coach used to say to me, whenever I admitted an imperfection “OHMIGOD YOU’RE HUMAN?!?!?!?” Lol. Yes we are. Human. Allowed to be rubbish! Allowed to have a bad day. And our imperfections make us who we are…

Part of our unique essence comes from our imperfections, just as part comes from our gifts. One without the other is wierd. I personally don’t know any perfect people. I know some people who try to be perfect, and deny or suppress or hide their imperfections. I’ve done it myself at times. And it is painful. Because when you start denying parts of you, it is like cutting off a limb. And why? To appear perfect?

You ask me, flaws are more perfect. Because they are real. Don’t worry about being ‘perfect’. Instead focus on being YOU. All of you. Imperfections and all. Authentic, real…and therefore attractive, magnetic, beautiful, a shining star. And while you’re at it, why not look for the wonderful in the flawed. For example, I am lazy…which means I get to read lots of good books and sit in the garden in the sunshine a lot. This is a good thing! I am also quite a grump at times…which means that I rarely get taken for a mug because I’m just too arsey!!

I could tell you for HOURS what imperfections I have and why they’re great (I’m stubborn as a mule, which make me persistent; I’m really flaky at times, which makes me multi-passionate and creative; I eat too much junk food, which gives me lots of padding for winter!) but I won’t go on about how perfectly imperfect I am! I want to hear about you. What beautiful imperfections do you have…and what is GOOD about them?

Share your thoughts, leave me a comment or contact me through the website and let me know, and if you’re not sure what is good about YOUR imperfection, share it anyway!

Love

Donna.x
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Following Your Intuition Is Always Right, Especially When It Makes No Sense

<big>I had followed my intution a few times in my life, but the time it became really obvious that my intuitive guidance was “right” was when I made the decision to go to Australia about 10 years ago. Up until the day I decided to go, I’d NEVER wanted to do any such mad thing – I mean, how many shoes can you get in a backpack anyway?

Understandably, all my friends were baffled and worried. Some of them told me I was mad, some tried to talk me out of it – pointing out that I usually manage to lose cinema tickets between the kiosk and the screening room (and excellent point!). I ignored all of it, only able to explain with “I know it’s the right thing to do.”

Did I ever have regrets? A couple of times – usually when I was tired, broke, lonely and being kept awake by other backpackers “getting busy”. Shudder. But apart from those very few moments, this illogical, out of character, strange decision was the best one I ever made. And now, if I ever get intuitive guidance that doesn’t appear to make sense, I pay a lot of attention!

Following that intuitive guidance brings you confidence in yourself, even when it doesn’t ‘work’ like you think it should, the very fact that you trusted yourself enough to take action gives you confidence. It can bring you adventure, fun, joy, love, sunsets over distant oceans, but most of all it brings you LIFE because your intuition will take you where you want to be, it will challenge you (gently if you ask it to!), and it will stretch you…which will make you feel alive.

So, what’s your intution telling you right now?

Love

Donna.x

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Overcoming Procrastination

I believe there are only 3 reasons for procrastination:

1, I don’t want to do it

2. I’m not ready to do it

3. There’s a better way to do it.

Procrastination gets a really bad rap, but I believe (like everything) it has a positive side. So if you find yourself procrastinating…check why you’re putting off whatever it is you’re putting off. Do you want to do it? If the answer’s no is there another way to get it done? Can someone else do it? Does it even need to be done? If there’s no other way, it has to be done and you have to do it…make it fun! For example, when I do my accounts, I put my favourite music on the stereo and turn it up LOUD then just get on with it for half an hour or so. i don’t try to do it all at once, I do it in bite size chunks. And I heard this tip for gettting your filing done if you watch CSI Miami: everytime David Caruso touches his sunglasses, file a piece of paper. It’ll all be done in minutes!

If you’re not ready, what’s the next step? I had a client who procrastinated a piece of homework I’d set – when asked, he said he needed a pad to do it. It wasn’t the homework assignment that was the problem, he was just missing a bit of kit! Easy. Everytime I redo my website I procrastinate until the mental stew has marinated enough that I actually know what to do. By allowing myself to ‘not be ready’, I save myself hours of unnecessary work that I will just do again and again.

And lastly, is there a better way? I had a client who was procrastinating making some sales calls. When asked if there were a better way, it emerged that 3 of the 50 people he needed to call hated being sold to by telephone. So, for those 3 there was a much better way – go and see them! The other 47 calls were done within 24 hours, and appointments set up to see the other 3. A classic example of a teeny obstacle getting in the way of a big job.

So, when you find yourself procrastinating, see it as a positive thing – you get to find out if you really want to do this, if you need something to be ready to do it, or if there’s a much better way.

Oh, and my last tip for procrastination: NEVER EVER use it as a stick to beat yourself with. Trust yourself – you are always doing your best in every moment (even when it seems like you’re not!). Procrastination does not have to be synonimous with ‘pain’.

Love

Donna.x

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Moan, Whinge, Complain

I just read a blog post on www.breaktheillusion.com about complaining. Davey Wavey had decided to have a ‘complaint free’ day…which lasted 3.5 minutes. This just really made me laugh. And also made me think about you guys – do you know how much you complain? How long would you last on a complaint free day?

I like to think I don’t complain much…but I do! Compared to when I worked 9-5 in a job I hated, I complain 1000% less…but I still complain quite a lot. Especially in winter about the weather. Don’t even get me started on snow. Think of the old saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” I know people who would never speak if they followed this rule – are you one of them?

Now I’m not suggested you just never speak unless you’re talking sunshine…pretending all is happiness and flowers is just as destructive as constant complaining. But do notice when you are complaining and what you are complaining about. And if you could maybe reduce the complaining time and up the amount of time you talk about what’s good in life.

Constant complaint is depressing. The world isn’t going to hell in a hand-basket, but if you listen to some conversations you would think there was nothing good in anyone’s world. Yuck. So just for a little while, instead of thinking about what’s wrong with your life, the world, yourself; think about what’s brilliant. And have some fun NOT complaining!

Love

Donna.x

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An Unlikely Friendship

What’s not to love about a video featuring an orangutan hugging a dog??? Enjoy!

http://video.aol.co.uk/video-detail/the-orangutan-and-the-hound/1234581161

Love

Donna.x

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The Process of Life

I have lost count of how often people have said to me “I’m not there yet” – as in “I’m not Queen of the universe yet”, “I’m not a gazillionaire yet”, “I’m not filling my potential yet”. Who is? Everybody has more they want to achieve, more they want to do, and it often doesn’t matter how much they have done and achieved, there is still another mountain to climb.

Everyone’s life is in process. Step by step by step we move towards what we want…and as we get closer, we discover that we want something more, something different, something else. When I started out in business, my ambition was to earn a decent living from one to one coaching. Now that vision has expanded to include an entire “empire” I’m working towards!! (See www.thefabulousformula.com for the inspiration for that ‘empire’!)

And I have no doubt that in 5 years time, my vision and ambition will have changed again. It’s a process. And by following that process, you discover sometimes that you don’t want what you though you wanted. You discover sometimes that there’s even more ambition once you get a little way along the path. And you discover sometimes that you’re on the right track.

In these days of speed web-browsing, speed food, and speed dating, we don’t want to wait, we want world domination NOW DAMMIT. Unlucky, because it’s a process! And if you ask me, that’s the fun of it – achievements don’t mean so much when there’s no blood, sweat and tears left on the path to them! Lol – you know me better than that – instead of blood, sweat and tears, make it fun, laughter and growth…

If you have not achieved everything you want in this life yet, why not give yourself a little bit of a break? It’s a process, you’re working on it, you’ll get there – I know you will. I believe in you. And if you want some help along the journey, get in touch with me to find out how coaching can help you to get clear about what you want, enjoy the journey more and set out the steps in front of you for you to take.

Enjoy the process!

Love

Donna.x
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Discover Your Unique Essence

This weekend I’ve been watching some Faaaaaaaaabulous videos from Sandy Grason about building your empire, masterminding and your unique essence. And I thought that you would love the process for discovering your unique essence. If you’d like to watch the video about it, click here.

In a nutshell, the process is this: 1. Get a sheet of paper and write “I am” at the top and 1 to 10 down the side. 2. Imagine yourself a year from now – your life has gone better than you could ever have dreamed. Revel in that picture of you. 3. Write down the first 10 words you think of to describe who you are being in that picture. Don’t edit, don’t second guess and just write. 4. Write out your “I am” statement with the 10 qualities and add “I allow the pure expression of my (your name)-ness to shine forth in every moment”.

5. Share it in a comment here. Here’s mine:

I am passionate, funny, confident, strong, articulate, joyous, energetic, magnetic, expressive, a leader with a super strong belief in the pure magnificence of people, authentic, playing full out, expansive and laid-back. I allow the pure expression of my Donna-liciousness
to shine forward in every moment.

Woohoo!

Love

Donna.x

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And God Made Dog

A bit of Friday Fun for you:

And God created dog – The Story of Adam & Eve’s Pets

Adam and Eve said, ‘Lord, when we were in the garden, you walked with us every day. Now we do not see you anymore. We are lonesome here, and it is difficult for us to remember how much you
love us.’

And God said, ‘I will create a companion for you that will be with you and who will be a reflection of my love for you, so that you will love me even when you cannot see me. Regardless of how selfish or childish or unlovable you may be, this new companion will accept you as you are and will love you as I do, in spite of yourselves.’

And God created a new animal to be a companion for Adam and Eve.

And it was a good animal.

And God was pleased.

And the new animal was pleased to be with Adam and Eve and he wagged his tail.

And Adam said, ‘Lord, I have already named all the animals in the Kingdom and I cannot think of a name for this new animal.’

And God said, ‘I have created this new animal to be a reflection of my love for you, his name will be a reflection of my own name, and you will call him DOG.’

And Dog lived with Adam and Eve and was a companion to them and loved them.

And they were comforted

And God was pleased.

And Dog was content and wagged his tail.

After a while, it came to pass that an angel came to the Lord and said, Lord, Adam and Eve have become filled with pride. They strut and preen like peacocks and they believe they are worthy of
adoration. Dog has indeed taught them that they are loved, but perhaps too well.’

And God said, ‘I will create for them a companion who will be with them and who will see them as they are. The companion will remind them of their limitations, so they will know that they are not always worthy of adoration..’

And God created CAT to be a companion to Adam and Eve.

And Cat would not obey them.. And when Adam and Eve gazed into Cat’s eyes, they were reminded that they were not the supreme beings.

And Adam and Eve learned humility..

And they were greatly improved.

And God was pleased . . .

And Dog was happy. . .

And Cat didn’t give a shit one way or the other…

Happy Friday!!!

Love

Donna.x

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Your Greatest Accomplishment

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson. And to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else requires you to know who you are, accept who you are and love who you are. Warts and all. Imagine this…even with all your faults, all your problems, all the things you do and say wrong, you are still wonderful.

That combination of genius (that you never acknowledge), brilliance (that you never acknowledge) and mess (which you give way too much importance to) makes up the unique creation that is you. In order to be yourself, you need to be the one part of the world that isn’t trying to make you be something different. Be yourself – your real self, with your creativity, your passion, your joy, your grumpiness, your impatience. Be all of you…and that will be your greatest accomplishment.

Love

Donna.x

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