Follow the Energy

I was on a group call last night with the fabulous Joel Young about NPA – a lovely method for freeing and allowing energy.  Joel was talking about following the animation – the things that have energy.  You know how your energy changes and goes down when you are, say, moaning about the weather?  And how it changes and goes up when you are talking about something you love to do – like holidays, gigs, nights out with friends etc.  Well that positive animation is what we’re talking about.

Joel likened it to surfing a wave – following that energy.  When we are trying to ‘make’ ourselves do something…we are trying to surf on a millpond!  That’s why sometimes it is so difficult to get something done…and on another day, you will fly through the same task.  So where is the animation for you today?  Where is the energy?  What are you interested in and engaged by?  Not what you ‘should’ be doing, but where the energy is building with a wave ready for you to surf.

If this is something you are not used to doing, it might sound a little hard…but it just takes a bit of practice.  So start to notice – where is the animation?  Where is the interest?  What has a a wave of energy?  Go do that – follow the energy and see where it takes you.  I have found that following the energy makes life 1000 times easier.  When I am trying to make the energy flow, life is harder, stuff takes longer, I am constantly getting stuck and it feels bad.

Take writing a blog post for example, if I try to write when there is no energy to write, I could sit at the laptop for a week without writing anything useful!  But today, now, the energy is flowing…and this has taken 10 minutes so far.  What a difference!  Now there are times when you’ve just got to do it, and at those times, you can build the energy – for example, to get my accounts done, I put on some loud music and raise my energy so I can ‘get it done’.

But it’s becoming rare that I will try to force myself to go where the energy is not these days.  And when I do, I remember it is a very inefficient way of living!  Tap into that energy of life that is all around you and just watch your life get easier as you ride that wave.

Love

Donna.x

PS If you have any questions or comments about this concept, leave me a comment below.

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What Does Life Want From You?

Most of us ask what we want from life…with varying success! Sometimes this perspective brings great joy, and sometimes it brings great disatisfaction. What if ‘what do I want from life’ was the wrong question?

What if the question was ‘what does life want from me’?

What might change?

I was pondering this, and I realised that life wants me to live joyfully, not sit at my desk ‘forcing myself’ to work. Just realising this freed me up to enjoy my procrastination!

Love

Donna.x
PS This question came from Eckhart Tolle

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Find A Way

I watched this video this morning and I love this.

http://link.brightcove.com/services/player/bcpid49309401001?bctid=610255164001

Many of us have people around us who want to keep us safe and not disappointed by life so they tell us how hard things are, how unlikely it is we’ll succeed, how we should just stop, not try and stay safe.  They’re trying to help.  But that’s no reason to listen!  FIND A WAY.  If you want to do something, find a way.  Most people who succeed are just like you and me, with the same insecurities and fears, they just kept going, kept trying to FIND A WAY.  Discouragement happens, but just keep going and find a way!

Love

Donna.x

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Covering Your Ass

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up.

Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Enough of that crap . . The donkey later came back, and bit the farmer who had tried to bury him.

The gash from the bite got infected and the farmer eventually died in agony from septic shock.

MORAL FROM TODAY’S LESSON:

When you do something wrong, and try to cover your ass, it always comes back to bite you.

Lol.

Donna.x

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OnTheBeach – Don’t Tell Me I Suck

Did you know there are 12 weeks left until the end of this year? Yes, I know – time flies doesn’t it? I seem to spend my life saying “I can’t believe it’s October/January/2009/nearly Christmas”. Anyway, what has 2010 been like for you? Did you achieve what you wanted to? Have you had lots of fun? Have you been falling just a little bit more in love with life every day? Are you happy with how life is progressing? If the answer to any of those questions is ‘no’, perhaps the time has come to try a little life coaching? I have 3 one to one coaching spots open between now and Christmas – do you want to take one of them? To find out more about the how, why, where, when, who and how much, click here where you will find answers to all those questions and more! I look forward to working with you to create a life you love. And if you spot any mistakes on this page, please let me know! Despite reading through it 100 times, I am sure I’ve missed something! - Don’t Tell Me I Suck -

One of my least favourite things in the whole world is receiving e-mail that tells me I suck. Not because of anything I’ve done, not thoughtful feedback from someone who knows me, but a random e-mail from some ‘expert’ who tells me what I’m doing wrong and why I suck and why my approach will never work and how they are wonderful and have all the answers.

Grrr. Back in the early years of my business, I was subscribed to hundreds of these things from marketers, business experts and random people off the internet. And every time I received them, I would shrink a little more in confidence. I would read them through, recognise the terrible patterns they described and take their word for it that because I was listening to music while I worked, my business would tank – or some other such shite. It very nearly drove me out of business.

Luckily, I found people who didn’t jump on this bandwagon and instead of telling me I sucked, they just gave me useful information I could use to ‘get better’ at whatever it was. Without making me feel bad about myself and my chances first. People who told it like it was (building a business takes time, changing your life takes time, sorting your financial life takes time etc) without making me discouraged.

It may be a ‘wonderful’ sales technique (doesn’t work on me by the way) but if it leaves me feeling like I’ve just bitten into a rotten apple, it’s not good. The real truth is that there are as many ways of doing things as there are people in the world. Everyone is unique, and has a unique style. Sure, we can model ourselves on successful people…but people who fit our style rather than people who are polar opposites from us.

For example, I know of a successful author who gets up at 5 am to write. I would love to write more books, but I am not going to get up at asleep o’clock to do it. Not least because I am at my worst, my least creative and my grumpiest first thing in the morning – not something conducive to great writing! But I have heard this author say that you ‘have to’ get up early to write.

Hmm. Maybe he ‘has to’. But I am pretty sure that amongst the millions of authors out there, there are some who write in the afternoon, or even (gasp of horror) in the evening. It’s horses for courses. Remember this the next time you have someone who knows nothing about you telling you what you should do. What they mean is ‘this is what I would do’ – which might well be helpful…but it also might be as useless as the advice to get up at asleep o’clock when you are not a morning person.

Anyway, this subject kicked off today because I received an e-mail from someone basically telling me (without knowing a damn thing about me) that the way I was doing business was ‘wrong’. I unsubscribed. If you know me and how I’m doing things, feel free to tell me I suck – I appreciate constructive criticism, it helps me to get better. But don’t tell me I suck when you have no idea about me.

- Something to Play With -

When you get advice this week, remember that what they mean is ‘this is MY opinion’, not ‘this is the law’ – the world has space for all sorts of different routes to success in all areas. Trust yourself to know what’s right for you (if it makes you feel bad/ill/cross, it’s probably not right for you!) And if you have e-mails coming into your inbox that make you feel bad, unsubscribe! Want to share your thoughts on this article?  Leave me a comment below.  Or pop over to my facebook page and write on my wall.

Love

Donna.x

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Learning More From Failure

Do you learn more from failing than you do from succeeding?

It is accepted wisdom that we learn a lot more from making a mess of things than we do from effortlessly flying through. But why?

Is it because there are more lessons when we fail? Or is it because we don’t examine the cause of our success as much as we analyse the cause of our failure?

I believe it is the latter – there are just as many lessons to learn from happiness, ease, joy and success. But we don’t tend to pay any attention when things are going well. As soon as things go bad, we get out the magnifying glass and take it apart!

What’s going well in your life right now? Why is it going well? What are you doing to contribute to this ‘well’ness? What are the factors that make up a happy, successful life for you? Are you doing them?

Make the decision today to learn just as much from what you are doing right as what you are getting wrong.

Love

Donna.x

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